ELEVEN (11) TIPS ON HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD IMPROVE HIS/HER GRADES
Parents, with excitement, often see their babies as future great personalities. At the initial stage, all they see is future Isaac Newton, Barack Obama. They see future engineers, doctors, lawyers. However they didn't capture, in their mind, challenges that might arise, vicissitudes that may spring up and overwhelming situations that might come up in the process especially where learning matters. But concerning their studies and road to their destinies, here are some tips that can help reasonable parents guide their kids through their journey in school.
1. PARENT - CHILDREN INTERACTION
Firstly, as parents, you have to spend some time with your child in a friendly conversation in order to ascertain exactly, where his/her personal challenges might spring up from. Shockingly, parents ignore their kids, hoping that as they grow, they will learn by themselves; to become good people, pleasing and loving personalities, great individuals and the best among the best.
They later learnt that it didn't turn out that way. These children are feeble creatures, defficient of wisdom and knowledge. Children needs guidance.
Children need to be disciplied and taught the path they should journey in life. Parents therefore, who igmore their children exposes them to diverse influences in the environment. These often leaves the child with no choice but choose gangs and groups that seems to be the strongest since he/she needs to survive and become acceptable.
Sometimes children's distraction could originate from social media, peer pressure, opinions from kids from other families that seems to live the better life in the society. Already, all these attacks the kid's confidence and self esteem. Once this attack sets in, how do we expexct them to perform better in academic activities, of course the battle of confidence and courage is lost. Darkness and fear has set in. Anxiety and panic has won the war of the mind.
2. MONITOR HIS/HER DISTRACTIONS
Get to know the friends he/she hangs out with - do they place value in their education and destiny? - his/her activities of engagement - especially extracurricular activities - see to it that with your authority as a parent, unnecessary engagements, activities without any greater purpose in view must be curtailed.
Excesses must be curbed. What he/she does must add up to a purpose, where he/she goes must help him mentally, all his/her engagements must counts. Also, his exposure to social media must be checked and well regulated.
Food, fashion and style must not be a distraction. Entanglement and unnecessary commitment to certain relationships and friendships must be severed. Parents should do well to check, from time to time, that children's emotional well-being is taken care of.
3. WHY HE/SHE SHOULD LEARN. LOVE TOWARDS LEARNING
One thing I learnt from a mentor was:
" the beauty of experiences is PURPOSE; what gives value to an experience is PURPOSE".
You can agree with me, thoughtfully, that experiences doesn't makes sense to us when we can't percieve or hold onto a purpose or reason in view. The reason a brave soldier will remain unperturbed and calm in the midst of war, calamities, violence and unfavorable circumstances is because of the purpose he is willing to die for.
However some folks, though they may doing well in terms of material possessions, comits suicide, can't stand challenges, can't face hardship. It's because there is no purpose of which they should live for, suffer for, and willing to die for.
Children need to be dutifully educated properly on self discovery. Parents need to sacrifice, take pains to educate and enlighten their children on matters of education, why they should go to school and college, why they should study hard, why they need discipline and focus in their paths, and why they should love their studies.
Books should not just be read, but the reading procees must be loved and valued too, else it becomes a chore, a burden and a plaque. Studying without knowing why you should and also not knowing what the heck you are doing is boring and wasteful.
4. STUDY PLANS
Parents should come up with an effective study plan, the child should see reasons why the routine study plan and scheme need to be followed commitedly and religiously. In order to make learning fun, parents should do well to attach rewards and benefits to this plan. Such study plans should match up with what is going on in school. This will help the children's performance improve.
5. ASSIGNMENTS; EXERCISES
Parents should be committed enough to go through their children's assignments from school, previous test, performances and scores from previous school activities. A learning pattern that can help your child be in track with good performances must be mapped out. Also, for the child's engagement in learning, excercises must be formed to improves the child learning and understanding.
6. FOLLOW UP
Both parents ( mom and dad) must form a follow up team where a child's performance is monitored and judged. Parents could invite 3rd parties like elderly siblings and school teachers to regularly check up with on the child's performance and result.
7. CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT
Parents who wish to witness enduring and lasting success in their children's development and performances, must take pains and effort to teach their children how to cultivate and grow in strength of character, just as the mature also in age.
Discipline must be learnt by their child. Discipline to do what's needs to be done at the time appointed. Discipline to sacrifice longings and fantacies. Children must cultivate the act of deep concentration in thier studies. They must learn to develop a stronger will power even as they grow. This will surely pay off, placing the child in a good place in life.
8. CONFIDENCE AND BOOST OF SELF ESTEEM
You must make sure he/she is calm and relaxed, create a surrounding atmosphere where your child can be at peace with you and his/her studies. This will help to boost his/her self confidence and self esteem. It will make your child trust you with his/her secrets, expose to you weaknesses and challenges that arises or may arise. Homes where parents engages in fighting and quarrels leaves the child with no other option than to fall back to himself/herself, shutting out peaople from their inner circle, therefore, sinking into depression and neurotic condition. Your child needs your attention, care, responsibility, affection, approval and validity as parents, inorder to gain a level of confidence. This confidence developed will help him/ her dive into his/her study with a mind free from anxiety, stress, worries and negative thoughts of failure and incapability to perform well or amount to anything in life.
9. IMPROVE ON HIS/HER ABILITIES
Concerning recent happenings, record has it that a young girl performed excellently in an exams were normally, limited amount of time is given for such exams. From her testimony she's qouted
" I appreciate my teachers for the great work they put in me, in order to improve my mathematical reasoning skill and comprehensive ability"
From her statement, we know convincingly, that in order to develop a child's mental capacities, much toils has to be done to expand the way he/she engages his/her mind. The child has to grow beyong his/her mental boundaries. The rigour required for such stretching of his/her mind must the parents take as their sole responsibility.
Question : how then do I help him/her improves his/her comprehensive skills and reasoning and memory.
Answer : by this one word phrase... Practice!! Practice!! And Practice some more
10. ENCOURAGEMENT IN YOUR CHILD'S ADVERSITY AND VICISSITUDES.
He/she needs your encouragement and warm embrace when he/she is going through experiences his/her mind isn't yet built up and matured to face. Experience of failure in assignment and class work, competition in school and mockery from fellows in school. Bullies, illness, lack of funds and financial support; all this sums up the adversity he/she might be going through.
11. CONNECTION WITH TEACHERS
Parents - teachers relationship matters as far as a child's academic performance is concerned.
Parents must make sure they build effective and active relationship with their children's school teachers. This will serve as a platform to regularly check up on him/her, his/her social life in school, his activeness in school activities, his/her well being and his/her performance. Teachers should report to parents changes that might be seen in the child's behavior, challenges he/she is going through, and his/her results and academic performance.
With all of these been said, parents who are hoping for a bright future for their children, should do well to pay tremendous attention to their children's learning.
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